Posted by A.
Today I read an article about a woman named Alexandra Tobias who was charged with shaking her 3-month-old baby to death because he interrupted her game of FarmVille. According to the Florida Times-Union article, “She told investigators she became angry because the baby was crying while she was playing a computer game called FarmVille on the Facebook social-networking website.”
It’s unfathomable to me how anyone could possibly hurt or kill their child. I can’t even bear the idea of seeing my son with a skinned knee, let alone being the one to cause him any pain or suffering.
While I’m glad Ms. Tobias admitted her crime, I find it slightly reprehensible that she is blaming a Facebook application for her break with reality. Perhaps she would have found child rearing more acceptable if — like the South Korean couple convicted in May of starving their child while raising a virtual baby — she were raising a virtual calf. I have never been much a fan of FarmVille, (the frequent updates from Facebook users about their farms are more than a little annoying), but there is clearly some deeper issue at play with this young woman than a deep-seeded devotion to sowing the seed on FarmVille.
My coworker and I were discussing the layers of beurocracy and obstacles a person must overcome in order to adopt a child or become a foster parent. But any woman with a fertile womb and a virile partner can pop out a baby and call herself mom. I certainly don’t want to infringe on anyone’s personal freedoms, but somehow it just seems wrong that the people who really want a child have to jump through so many hoops, while those who can barely handle the responsibility of a Chia Pet just have to jump into bed.